Do You Admire Your Boss?

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This post is spurred by another blog that I read by Scott Dinsmore at Live Your Legend

Live your legend is all about finding what you love to do and figuring out a way to make money at it so that you can be happy at your “J-O-B”.  Actually, most people, over 80% of the population to be exact, hate their job and the career that they chose to follow.  People have this lie planted in their head that a “JOB” is Not suppose to be fun or that your Not suppose to enjoy the work that you do!  So they put their head down and they Grind it out, Day after Day after Day, Year after Year after Year.  Becoming a workaholic in most cases.  All to become what the “World” says is the definition of “Success“.

You think that if you work your Boo-Tay off to make all the money you can and buy the nice house, the car, have the wife (husband) and kids (that you never get to see, by the way, because your working 100+hrs a week to maintain that so-called  “World Success”) and keep telling yourself, “When I retire, I will take time to be happy then and enjoy life“.  Which brings me back to the Live your Legend blog post, which was appropriately titled, “Do You Want to Be Your Boss?“. (Which is obviously the inspiration for my title, Thanks Scott! lol)

There was something that he said in there that Really just smacked me in the head and I have been thinking about it on and off all day.  “Happiness not spent today, does not equal more Happiness Tomorrow.  If you think that you will be less stressed, less conflicted and less disenchanted at a higher level, you’re in for a Nasty surprise”.

Now, let’s think about that for a minute. I mean really think about it.  Think about your boss.  Do you like them? Do you Admire them? Do they inspire you to be better? Do they motivate you to want to do the best job you can so that you can better yourself in the company or are they micromanaging you trying to keep you where you are because they Hate their job to? (and we all know misery loves company) Here is the big question…. Do you Really Want to Be Your Boss?  If you were offered his/her job tomorrow, would you take it?  That means, ALL the headaches, stresses, hours, time away from home and family that comes along with the pay check he/she is getting.  Now, be honest with yourself, because you have to live with your answer and so does your family not me, Do You Want to Be Your Boss? Do you Really want that promotion? Do you even Like what it is that you do?

Lets get a little deeper since I am Obviously trying to make you think Today!  If money were no object and you could do ANYTHING in the world you wanted to do…. Starting Tomorrow…. what would it be?  Would you go into work tomorrow and be happy about it.  Doing the best job that you could do and go as far as you could go in that company?  Or would you say, “Take this Job & Shove It!

If you Love what you do for a living, Hey, by all means Keep Doing it!  If you are excited to go to work and are Happy every morning when that alarm goes off because you get to do what you love to do everyday and get paid for it, then this blog post is NOT for you! Congrats on being 1 of the 20% or less.  But, if you are 1 of the 80%+ that Hate what they do…. then maybe, just maybe, now is the time for you to figure out an EXIT plan for your current situation. (And I don’t mean out of the 3rd floor window either lol)

Take a few minutes and really think about what it is that you would love to do that would make you happy.  Then write it down.  The next thing you do is put a pen to paper and figure out what it would take to make that become a reality.  Google it, do your research, find a way to make it happen.  Do Not Let Fear Grip You and keep you from your dreams.  Like I said in my previous blog “Forget About How..Just Do It”, your Dream is on the other side of the fog, you only have to go 3 feet at a time, but you Have To Do It! Fear Only Gets Loud when You’re Doing Something That Matters!

I have no idea where you are in life, I don’t even know you, but I do know how I felt when I was doing a Job that I hated! (that is another story for another blog!) I knew that I had to find a way out or it would kill me if I stayed.  Now that may be a little overly dramatic for you, but that is how I felt in that job.  I quit, busted my ass studying and in less than 3 months passed my personal trainer certification exam at the age of 44! A Light Switch Moment Dream, that if I am 100% honest with myself (and you) I was not sure that I could/would achieve it when I started out on that journey.  When I got my score, I asked the girl 3 times if I had passed because I Never thought I could do it.  When I got back out to my car, I burst into tears.  Big sobbing tears of joy flowing down so hard that I almost could not breathe.  I think I cried for what seemed like an eternity at the time, but was probably a good 5 minutes (or less) in reality.  I Did It! I Passed My Test! Not only did I pass, but I Passed with a score of 90!!! I have been training for 6+ years now & I absolutely LOVE what I do! I am now also a Transformation Life Coach, Public Speaker and soon to be Published Author!  I turned 50 in 2017 and I feel better today than I have in my entire life with Dreams and Goals that will make the world a better place for us all! This was ALL possible, because I Made a Choice! A Choice to Want to become More! To be Better than I was the Previous 44 years of my life!

I said ALL of that to say this to you, If I, a 44 yr old Mother of 2 and GG of 3, can make her Dream Job a Reality….then You Can Too! Believe in yourself and Never let anyone tell you that you “Can’t” or that your crazy or not good enough.  When other people start telling you that your crazy, trust me, that means you are on the right path!  Walk, Jog, Run, whatever you have to do!  Go around them, over them, under them or thru them, but Never Quit!  You are in control of your Destiny! You are the Creator of Whatever Life it is that you Choose to Create!

I would love to hear if you love your job and/or your boss? Or even better, Answer the question, “If money were no object and you could start your dream job tomorrow, what would that look like for you and your family?  Leave it in the comments below and lets chat for a moment!

I hope that I have at least inspired you to believe in YOUR own power a little more on this Beautiful Day! Thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to hear my heart!  Be Blessed!  Tammy

Enter the Challenge

So, I am going through my “Ridiculously Out of Control” Email tonight.  I see an email titled “NaBloPoMo“.  I am a little more than curious about what that means, so I open it up to see that it’s a Blog writing contest for the month of November called “National Blog Posting Month” through Blogher.com.  Basically it is issuing a challenge to write a Blog post every single day for 30 days during the month of November.

Now I am new to the whole blogging thing, but I have found that I really do enjoy it and I want to write more.  Soooooo, what this challenge is doing is going to push me to Write Every Single Day for the month of November.  There are no rules as far as number of words, how long, how short or whatever!  Which is Really Awesome for me lol.

So I am just sending this post out to let you know that you will be hearing from me Every Single Day This Month!! Woot Woot!  Now, that will do one of 2 things to you when you read this, Excite you or Scare the Hell out of you lol! I hope it is the 1st and not the latter but either way, I know that it will be fun, interesting and a Challenge that is Completely Possible for me to do.

I have been feeling the urge to write a lot lately and have let “Life” get in the way of the “Divine inspiration” that is nudging me to share my thoughts with the world.  With that being said, I will embrace my inner writer and post something Everyday for the next 30 days.  I hope that you enjoy my challenge as much as I will (Straight Face with eyebrow raised lol) and that you will engage with me, enjoy it with me, participate with me and I hope, most of all, that you will help Support Me in this Self Development Challenge as we go along in this month.

Have a Great Night & Enjoy the rest of your Weekend! #BeBlessed

Forget About How…Just Do It

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I was reading an email that I got from Lily Jensen a few minutes ago, which prompted this Blog post.  You know how you get up one morning after a good rain the night before and its Really Foggy?  You are trying to drive and you can only see 3 feet in front of you.  Now, you know where your going, but not quite sure if it’s really safe in these conditions but you know you have to go anyway.  I don’t think there is a person who hasn’t run into these conditions while driving at some point in their life.

Well let me flip this on you for just a moment.  Lets say, that you have this Big Dream or Goal that is just burning inside you.  You know that some how some way this is what you were meant to do.  Someone tells you that your crazy, or they ask you “How in the Hell, do You think you are gonna make that happen?” Now, let’s go back to driving in the fog for a second.  Let’s just say your Dream is on the other side of that fog.  You can only see 3 feet in front of you but you KNOW without a Doubt that you Have to Go For It! You drive in the fog all the time and you make it safely to your destination, right? You may drive a little slower to be safe, But You Don’t Quit Driving do you?  Fear only gets loud when you’re doing something that Matters!

Every single day that we are alive, we avoid 1 disaster after another, 1 step (or 3 feet) at a time.  Its called Life Experiences, that we learn from every minute of every day.  Why would you let a little “FOG” get in the way of you making your Dream Become a Reality?  How you get there will work itself out when you take that next step!  It’s the Law of Action.  You start attracting the things you need, ideas, money, time, people, whatever is needed to get you through the Fog, to your Destination (Dream).  Just Do It! Take that Next Step!

Sooooooo, Here’s the big Question?  Are you gonna play it safe and sit on the side lines of life and let Fear put blinders on your face, keep you in a choke hold tied to the porch?  Or are you gonna Kick Fear in the Teeth and Say “I Got This! Your No Longer Welcome Here!”  No matter what Dream or goal it is that you are chasing, I encourage you…No…I take that back… I Dare You to take that Next Big Scary Step, and the one after that and the next and next! I Promise you with ALL that is within me, that if you do that right there, You will Reach Your Dream Destination, Safe,  Sound and Successful!

So, tell me, where is your dream taking you today?

Quit Being a Victim

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Do Not Let Your Past Determine Your Destiny!

This post is a combination from several things I have read in the last few months and my own personal past that I am gonna reveal to you tonight.  This has really been on my heart of late and I think the time is right.  See we ALL have a “Past”.  I don’t care who you are.  If you have made a success out of your life then this post may not be for you because you did not let your Past Determine your Destiny and choose to Succeed in spite of or, better yet, because of your past.

See, there are a lot of people that “Choose” to play the victim.  Choose to say well this happen to me or that happen to me.  Or my favorite, this person did that to me back when, or this person said that…you get the idea.  I am living proof of it doesn’t matter what happen to you, what you went thru, who said what or who tried to keep you from succeeding.  It is all in how you CHOOSE to react to what happen.

Not many people know what I am about to share, but I know from my personal experiences, testimony, trials, Abundant Failures and successes that I am meant to help somebody or a Lot of Somebody’s with this story.  See, my first childhood memory is of me being sexually abused by my mother’s boyfriend while they were having sex on the couch. I could not have been more than 3yrs old.  And pretty much Every childhood memory up until about the age of 8yrs old was the same kind of abuse from different men in her life.  My last one was at the age of 13.  After that I was big enough and strong enough to fight back and win.  There was lots of physical, mental and emotional abuse to go along with it until I finally graduated high school and moved out of the house.

My whole sense of what a so called “Loving Relationship” has been jacked up for years.  My biological father was never a part of my life and I do not even know who he is to this day.  I have been through one jacked up relationship after another.  Honestly, I am only alive today because God used a friend to call me on a very dark day in my life when I wanted to take a whole bottle of sleeping pills and just go to sleep to Never Wake UP.

Why did he do that? Why even care about ME? I am just a girl that had nothing to offer anybody.  I had been used, abused, beaten down emotionally, little to no self-esteem, what Purpose could I possibly serve anyone, let alone God on this planet? But you know what, I have 2 Beautiful Children and 3 Awesome Grandchildren who Love me & I Love Them More than Life.  They give me a reason to get out of bed everyday.  That is my #1 reason for living!

But, the main reason that I revealing this to the world, is because I Made It! I Beat My Past! Did I do it alone? Hell No! Was it easy? Extra Hell No!! It was hard as Hell! Did i want to quit or give up? Yes! More times than I care to admit to myself much less the world.  I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the things that happen to me as a child, Were Not My Fault! They Do NOT make me any less of a person today.  What they did do was make me Stronger! They taught me how to forgive! They taught me how to Fight! Most of ALL….They taught me that GOD Loves ME! That He can Heal ALL things! That He, the creator of this Beautiful Universe, Did Not Give Up On Me when I gave up on myself! He Loved Me when I Hated Me! I hated who I was, who I had become and couldn’t stand to look at myself in the mirror!  HE Still Loved Me! He Forgave Me! He Saved Me! He Heals Me Every Single Day!  He has Blessed Me beyond my wildest dreams because He Loves Me!  Not because I deserve it, although by some people’s opinion’s, I am sure they would say that I do deserve it after going through what NO Child should Ever have to endure.

Could play the victim? Sure I could, even today after this story gets out,  there would Not be a single person on this earth that would blame me for one second if I hated the world and everyone in it!  But I know that I have a Purpose! I know that as HARD as this story is to type now, that there is someone, somewhere, that will read it and I Pray beyond ALL Prayers, that it will Save a Life!  I have Lost Everything in my life 2x, the house, the car, the job and it almost cost me my life.  But today, I stand before you, as a Proud  46-year-old Beautiful Mother of 2, GG of 3, a Certified Personal Trainer (a life long goal accomplished at the age of 44) and I hope, an Inspiration to many.   I pray that I give Hope to Someone who needs to know You Are Worthy! Your Past Does Not Determine Your Destiny! You are Not a Victim you are a Victor! You are Beautiful! You are Strong! And if you are reading this now, God Lead you here to help you heal! To find him so that He can Love you Like a Father is Suppose to!  ALL you have to do is ask!

Please share this with as many people as you can.  I know that I am meant to help people, even though I am not sure how, I just know that This, My personal Story, of Faith in a God I didn’t Know, did not want to know, Saved me and Lead Me here!  I would love to hear your feed back and if this has helped you or someone you know in some way!

Thank you for taking time to read part of my life story tonight! Be Blessed